The Four Cornerstones of Sustainable Sexuality
Sustainable Sexuality is based on sharing four key conversations with ourselves, our partners and our social networks.
OUR RELATIONSHIP TO OUR OWN BODY – LOVE YOURSELF!
Before we can love someone else, we must love ourselves. It has been repeated so many times that it may appear like a cliché, but it does come true. To love others, we must first love ourselves. Our relationship with ourselves and our own bodies is fundamental to how satisfied we are with our sex lives. The first step is to become aware of our own thoughts about ourselves and our bodies, and explore the effect these thoughts and attitudes have upon our lives.
How can we expect others to know what we like if we don’t know it ourselves? The public knowledge of our body’s wonderful potential for pleasure and ecstasy is rather limited. In addition to basic facts – like the size of the clitoris and different types of touch and orgasms – shades are important. No two women or two men are alike. How are you special?
CHALLENGE YOUR BELIEFS AND EXPLORE THE WHOLE BIG ROOM OF SEXUALITY!
Our attitudes, thoughts, and ideas about sexuality are created by both our personal experiences and by the society we grow up in – and our conditioning largely affects our sexual activity. By exploring our thoughts and ideas, where they come from and how true they are to us, we can expand our sexual reportoir and be more sexually free.
OFFER RESPECT TO OUR OWN AND OTHERS SEXUALITY!
When we love ourselves and know ourselves, it is also easier to stand up for oneself. Yet, taking full responsibility for our own sexuality can be challenging. It involves taking conscious choices, expressing clearly what we like and dislike, and stop compromising on the matters that are deeply important to us. Being aware of our partner’s signals by consciously listening and asking for confirmation of their needs is a skill that offers respect for their own sexuality as well as ours. The more at home we feel with our sexuality and our borders, the more open and accepting we can be toward others!