Pussy, emotions and physiology

You might think it’s a bit odd that I speak of my pussy as if she was a separate entity. Naturally, we are connected, though the relationship we have is unlike the relation I have with other parts of my body. She is quite a character and sometimes it feels like she has a life of her own.

I’ll explain. At times we are in complete agreement, pussy and I. I feel horny, she feels horny. Like I have a horny feeling in my head, and I feel my pussy, she tingles, delicious warm and horny. I know feelings come from the brain, but it’s as if they are in the pussy.  I know my feelings originate in my brain but it really feels like they are in my pussy. Other times I can feel excited, horny and sexy – and pussy just plays dead. But a little (or a lot of) attention and she may just kick into action and away we go, sex, joy and pleasure!  

Other times its completely opposite, I can be totally wiped out and sleep is the only thing on my mind, and there she is, horny little pussy. Sometimes that’s just how she is, or it may be that she is awakened by the closeness of my partner, or his hard cock by her. Sometimes I’ll just let her have her way, let her horniness spread through my body and off we go, me just forgetting I was tired. Other times she is put in place with a clear message to chill, it’s bedtime!

Even though she may be horny – that doesn’t mean she’s ready to rock, hot or wet. There are times when I am totally up for it, but pussy is not quite ready. Which is when it`s nice to have some coconut oil handy. Wetness isn´t the only factor which decides whether pussy is ready or not. Most literature compares the male erection with female lubrication, which is wrong! Clitoral erection is another factor, but which can be harder to notice. So even though my pussy can be hot and wet, it aint sure she’s up for it. When she’s like this, it’s wise I take a moment to listen, maybe slow my partner down a little. I’m not always a good listener for her though, I have to admit. Though when she’s ready it’s like she just unfolds and is welcoming!

Non-concord is the correct term for when feelings and physiology (or; mind and body) are not quite in tune, like when I’m horny but pussy isn’t wet or ready or vis a versa. For women this is pretty normal, more so than for men. Research shows that women’s experienced sexual excitement and her genital response only meet 10% of the time, with men it’s 50%. I really think that sounds a bit weird/it’s weird, but it IS super-important to know; How pussy behaves is not a trustworthy barometer for how horny a woman is or not.

This is one good and logical reason that my pussy can speak for herself, because we don’t always agree.

You can find a well-spoken, deeper explanation of non-concord in Emily Nagoski’s video: 
https://thedirtynormal.com/post/2015/01/30/arousal-nonconcordance-in-two-minutes/