An unusual pussy visit

A few weeks ago, pussy got an unusual visit, namely by a student in somatic sexology. That is, sexology with a focus on the body – so there’s bound be some cock and pussy – or genitals, to be polite. As a student of somatic sexology you need to practice of course, and through my friend’s friend I was asked if I and my pussy might want to be guineapigs. Actually, believe it or not, there’s no queue of people or genitals volunteering for such a treatment. But pussy was not completely unfamiliar with the concept, and agreed that she ought to show up for this, it could be fun – and it was definitely a bit exciting.

We had a preparatory skype call, where the student explained what it was all about and explained the framework of a treatment. She needed to practice genital mapping and genital exploration. Pussy mapping and exploration? Bring it on!

She came home to us, which was convenient. I put some extra logs in the stove so the house was cosy. First we went through the framework for the treatment which has this description in her treatment overview: “Together we map the different parts of your genitals and converse about this. Genital mapping helps people understand their own potential for pleasure and raises bodily experiences to a communicatory level. ” Also, my active consent is important throughout the process.

She put up a massage bench and I undressed and lay down on my stomach. She lay a towel over my legs and started massaging my back. The body massage helped me relax and land in my body after the working day. I rolled over and she massaged my arms, chest and stomach. At one point she asked if I am ready to begin with the vulva massage. Well, I guess I am, and she sat on the bench, my legs over hers. She took gloves on, and layed a hand over the Venus Mountain. Hm, yes, it’s a little strange, definitely unfamiliar. I felt safe, but maybe not quite ready?

She has repeatedly asked, and encouraged me to say what I feel and want – yet it sits deep in me to “not trouble anyone”, to be a “good girl” and I will be fine… But hello, here I actually have the opportunity to practice breaking this pattern! I said that I actually do not feel completely ready, could she massage my thighs a little and around the hips? Of course she can and thank you for letting me know! So there was a round of more massage, legs and hips relaxing, before she again jumps up on the bench. I and pussy are ready.

The mapping was an exploration we made together. First, she held and followed the bone structure around the vulva, moved over to outer labia, then it was clitoris’ turn. She starts on the clitoris shaft. I certainly let her know that she was in the right place. Then she followed the clitoral legs down along the labia. Strangely, I’ve never felt them that way before; really followed the wonderful, big clitoris throughout its length! Even though I have known pleasure there before, I really thought the clitoral legs lay a little farther inside the vagina, as you feel under the g-spot? Whatever the anatomical atlas might say, I know what I know. She continued with the inner labia. – How does it feel when I pull them carefully? She asked.

Eventually she asked if I was ready for exploration on the inside. Yes. Pussy was happy and ready. I didn’t feel particularly horny, but it felt good and I felt relaxed, it was a bit exciting. My vagina was carefully explored with a finger. Some points felt good, some more tense, a little painful. I gave a running commentary on how it felt, telling if I wanted more here or there, harder, lighter … this really was great practice for me too, for even though I have become much more conscious of my own sexuality in recent years, attending courses, challenging my ingrained attitudes and really working to take responsibility for my own sexuality – old habits lurked; “don’t be troublesome or take space, other people’s needs and wishes are more important than yours, don’t make others uncomfortable with your demands and needs” etc. etc.

So, I used my time well, practicing. – “That’s good! Continue there, a little lighter pressure, hold still – or pulse the pressure” I asked. The treatment gave me space to experience horniness and desire, orgasm was also on the menu if it should happen to come along too. Yet the focus was only on me, this was one-way touch, my body, my pleasure. This does not mean, however, that the therapist must be positive about everything one proposes. If there is something she does not feel okay with, she should say “Can you please ask me something else?”. It felt like a clear, safe framework.

There was no orgasm for me (not that it was my intention either), I think it’s harder to go that way with a “stranger” than it would have been with my partner. Anyway, it was a pleasant, educational experience – I believe this is something all women – and men – should experience! Not really realistic that everyone could do it with a somatic sexologist, but we could do it with ourselves, with a partner or even a good friend.

Explore and Enjoy!

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